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sildilReaders of my LJ may recall the occasional posts I have made about my Dad down in London. We've always had an up and down relationship, probably starting when I was 3 months old and he gave me to my Gran for adoption, but that's another story...
The last time I went to see him, I said 'I am coming down to see you, and want to go over to the East End to revisit old haunts.' SO what did we do? We spent the day in central London wandering round the parts HE likes.
OK, I can deal with that, maybe Hackney and Dalston next time. Then I asked if Lizzie and I could stay over when we went down to see the Placebo concert, rather than driving back the same night. 'No, because it's getting near Christmas,' (it was the 6th December) 'and we will be busy.' Even though we were just going to be staying the one night and leaving next morning.
SO...I phoned up New Years day to say that I was coming to London the next day to bring Nick and g/f down for them to see a play (drama coursework). Could I see them in the afternoon for a coffee, so I had a break between the drive down and back (of around 2 hours each way)? 'No because we are all 'talked out' and tired and want a rest between visitors. However we could meet in London if you REALLY want to?' (Which rather puzzled me since surely trekking across town is MORE tiring?) 'OK, say around 3pm, while Nick is at the play?' I suggested. 'No, because I want to be coming away from town at that point, to avoid the rush hour.'
So what was the bloody point? So I scrapped that idea, did my own thing and had a much better day NOT seeing him and shopping and so on, it was just rather tiring.
Now this morning I get a card from his wife (as I KNEW I would) under the guise of an 'apology' for John's antisocial old-git behaviour. Trouble is, she's made it worse! After lots of waffle and blathering on about them rather overdoing the social bit this Christmas, she went on to explain that friends of theirs had been with them for New Year, then went to Paris and were calling in again as they went back North.
"Jan and Dave have always made us so welcome when we've needed somewhere in Yorkshire and spoil us rotten when they come down, so at such times my love they come first in the energy demand, mainly because Jan loves to chatter on as you do, which is lovely but the 2 of you ..." (presumably me and Jan) "...in one week for John was a thought making him run for cover."
Well thanks very much. At least I know my place in the pecking order. I felt hurt enough before, but at least then I put it down to John's general self-centred, controlling personality, but now I just feel pissed off. I won't be suggesting seeing him again, not for a long time.
The last time I went to see him, I said 'I am coming down to see you, and want to go over to the East End to revisit old haunts.' SO what did we do? We spent the day in central London wandering round the parts HE likes.
OK, I can deal with that, maybe Hackney and Dalston next time. Then I asked if Lizzie and I could stay over when we went down to see the Placebo concert, rather than driving back the same night. 'No, because it's getting near Christmas,' (it was the 6th December) 'and we will be busy.' Even though we were just going to be staying the one night and leaving next morning.
SO...I phoned up New Years day to say that I was coming to London the next day to bring Nick and g/f down for them to see a play (drama coursework). Could I see them in the afternoon for a coffee, so I had a break between the drive down and back (of around 2 hours each way)? 'No because we are all 'talked out' and tired and want a rest between visitors. However we could meet in London if you REALLY want to?' (Which rather puzzled me since surely trekking across town is MORE tiring?) 'OK, say around 3pm, while Nick is at the play?' I suggested. 'No, because I want to be coming away from town at that point, to avoid the rush hour.'
So what was the bloody point? So I scrapped that idea, did my own thing and had a much better day NOT seeing him and shopping and so on, it was just rather tiring.
Now this morning I get a card from his wife (as I KNEW I would) under the guise of an 'apology' for John's antisocial old-git behaviour. Trouble is, she's made it worse! After lots of waffle and blathering on about them rather overdoing the social bit this Christmas, she went on to explain that friends of theirs had been with them for New Year, then went to Paris and were calling in again as they went back North.
"Jan and Dave have always made us so welcome when we've needed somewhere in Yorkshire and spoil us rotten when they come down, so at such times my love they come first in the energy demand, mainly because Jan loves to chatter on as you do, which is lovely but the 2 of you ..." (presumably me and Jan) "...in one week for John was a thought making him run for cover."
Well thanks very much. At least I know my place in the pecking order. I felt hurt enough before, but at least then I put it down to John's general self-centred, controlling personality, but now I just feel pissed off. I won't be suggesting seeing him again, not for a long time.
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