Life is never dull around here...
Feb. 26th, 2007 09:10 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sildilThose of you who remember my mentioning my Dad just after Christmas and quite a few posts back might be interested to read the latest in the ongoing saga of Sildil family life.
I wrote to my Dad, telling him that I was not going to contact him again and have heard nothing. Not a word. Not a letter, not a phone call, not an email. And not a word of apology for shoving me off yet again and being hurtful. Mind you, I didn't expect contact nor want it, but it's interesting none the less.
(As an aside and to give a further indication of what the man is like, he refused to go to his ex-wife's deathbed (my birth mother) when she asked for him and he didn't go to the funeral either, in spite of them being friends. She had just two people there, her mother and her social worker, I didn't even know about it until it was all over, and even then he wasn't the one to tell me.)
Anyway, I wrote to my half-sister last week with some trepidation, as I am very fond of her and her brother and was worried that my severing contact with her Dad would have upset her and/or made things difficult for her. Anyway, I got a reply today with this paragraph in it:
"...Like you, I have been finding it harder and harder to deal with Dad and
swallow down repeated hurtful comments and...the list goes on doesn't it.
Anyway we had a huge row in which he got very angry and said he didn't want
to see me again and I remained quite calm and detatched and in fact have not
been upset since - feels a relief actually..."
HOW can a parent say that to a child? Especially one as nice as my sister, seriously she is one of the kindest, most balanced and together people I know, with two well behaved, adorable kids.
He is going to end up a very lonely and bitter old man.
What you give out does indeed come back thrice.
I wrote to my Dad, telling him that I was not going to contact him again and have heard nothing. Not a word. Not a letter, not a phone call, not an email. And not a word of apology for shoving me off yet again and being hurtful. Mind you, I didn't expect contact nor want it, but it's interesting none the less.
(As an aside and to give a further indication of what the man is like, he refused to go to his ex-wife's deathbed (my birth mother) when she asked for him and he didn't go to the funeral either, in spite of them being friends. She had just two people there, her mother and her social worker, I didn't even know about it until it was all over, and even then he wasn't the one to tell me.)
Anyway, I wrote to my half-sister last week with some trepidation, as I am very fond of her and her brother and was worried that my severing contact with her Dad would have upset her and/or made things difficult for her. Anyway, I got a reply today with this paragraph in it:
"...Like you, I have been finding it harder and harder to deal with Dad and
swallow down repeated hurtful comments and...the list goes on doesn't it.
Anyway we had a huge row in which he got very angry and said he didn't want
to see me again and I remained quite calm and detatched and in fact have not
been upset since - feels a relief actually..."
HOW can a parent say that to a child? Especially one as nice as my sister, seriously she is one of the kindest, most balanced and together people I know, with two well behaved, adorable kids.
He is going to end up a very lonely and bitter old man.
What you give out does indeed come back thrice.
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Date: 2007-02-27 06:40 am (UTC)